Growing Pains

Life transitions can be hard, y’all. Even the good and exciting and fun transitions can bring stress and heartache and frustration.

It easy to remember that the less-than-fun transitions, the ones you don’t want, the changes you didn’t initiate, can be hard. Maybe you’re navigating a breakup, grieving the death of a loved one, moving back into your parents’ house. Frustration can be expected.

But what about when you are graduating high school, beginning college, starting your dream job, moving to a new home, marrying the love of your life, buying a new car, or bringing home a baby? Those are HUGE life changes, and they’re not all sunshine and rainbows.

Even the exciting seasons of life being growing pains.

Right now, in my life, I’m still pretty newly married (less than 2 years) and now I’m a pretty brand new mama (baby girl is 12 weeks old today). I am so blessed to be married to my childhood friend and teenage sweetheart, but we are still learning how to navigate our relationship. We still have very serious communication fails and we still hurt each other’s feelings. And this sweet baby girl is the most precious gift, but my whole life and body and sleep schedule is all turned upside down.

It’s easy to feel disappointed when your exciting new life changes bring unexpected stress. A tiny way to ease the disappointment is by enjoying the little things along the way. In any season, any chapter, in any challenge — find little things to enjoy. (Another thing you can do is invest in a life coach to guide you to and through your new life changes. But hey, you already knew that, right?)

What about you? What little things are you enjoying today? Today, I’m enjoying coffee, baby snuggles, and clean hair. 

Road Trips & Cocoons

How often do you intentionally “unplug”?

My husband and I took some time last week to get away and unplug from life’s natural chaos. We call this “cocooning,” when we try to shut out all other distractions and focus on each other. We tried not to answer work emails, we didn’t spend time aimlessness scrolling through our phones, we did our best to not respond to texts or comments or anything.

Instead, we traveled the states, spent time with each other, and focused on our marriage.

We went on an epic road trip that took 8 days to travel to 8 states. It was magical and fun and exhausting and amazing! Surprising as it may sound, it was an incredibly restful and soul-nourishing trip for us. Sitting in a car for eight days can really bring two people together!

How do you unplug? When do you get away? In what ways do you invest in your relationships? I’d love to know!

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So Much Still to be Done

Today, I am reflecting on the convicting words from Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., who in his Letter From a Birmingham Jail said:

“Actually, time itself is neutral; it can be used either destructively or constructively. More and more I feel that the people of ill will have used time much more effectively than have the people of good will. We will have to repent in this generation not merely for the hateful words and actions of the bad people but for the appalling silence of the good people. Human progress never rolls in on wheels of inevitability; it comes through the tireless efforts of men willing to be co workers with God, and without this hard work, time itself becomes an ally of the forces of social stagnation.”

There’s so much hard work still to be done.

May I be one who works tirelessly for justice, co-laboring with Christ. May I always be known as an ally to the Black community, a minister of reconciliation, and a co-worker with God. May we ALL be aware of the time we have and remember the weighty responsibility to use it well and wisely.

God, give us the strength to speak up against injustice AND silence. 

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